Have you ever stopped to think about how to coach yourself? We do it for friends and colleagues so why can’t we bounce ideas for ourselves?
Life coaching is something most people will explore during some sort of change occurring in their lives. You may be slap bang in the middle of change and feel uncertainty about what the outcome is or you’re not happy and change needs to be instigated but don’t how. So, let’s break down a couple of techniques Coaches use:
It’s always good to acknowledge parts in your life that you’re happy with. It gives you a sense of stability to have some aspects in life your satisfied with. The next step is to identify parts you’re not happy with, that you’d like to improve on. These parts or areas can be relationships, career, finance, family, wellbeing etc.
Once you’ve identified these parts you want to improve, it’s time think about what you want to attract, what you want more of. Most of us know what we don’t want which great however it doesn’t inspire change. It actually focuses our attention on sidestepping instead of working out what we want. Being aware of your self-talk will give you a hint of what you’re wanting more of in life e.g.
Here we get to the nitty gritty to retune our mindset. Creating a goal that works for you by keeping it simple in one to two sentences. The simpler the written goal, the more you can gravitate towards it. A little trick to writing a goal is to make it present tense (not future orientated) so the mind sees it as if the goal is already achieved. Some coaches liken a goal to an affirmation e.g.
You’ve worked out the areas you want to work on, what you want to increase and written a simple goal. Now we put the goal into action and create mini goals to measure your movement forward in a tangible manner. Mini goals are the how-to with a timeframe. Let’s create four mini goals for your one goal that are action orientated to introduce new habits for each one e.g.
1st Mini Goal – week 1
2nd Mini Goal – week 3
3rd Mini Goal – week 5
4th Mini Goal – week 7
And last but not least:
Whether you have a coach or choose to do self-coaching, it’s important to create a support network for your goals. If it’s your health and fitness goal, you may get an exercise buddy or two to keep you accountable or join a studio that you enjoy going to. It’s this external support that gives you that extra push when motivation hits a waning spot and let’s face it, we all could do with a little more ‘you got this’ incentive at times!