Navigating your way through life can be like a windy road at times. We’re always learning new things but when life gets heavy, it’s hard to know which path to take.
For some of us, logic just seems to be a natural skill, we’re strategic and it’s easy for our mind to push through difficult situations and step into a more balanced realm. Our knowing mind is leading us all the way. While for others, emotions are what drives our passions and feeling a connection to life and other people. Then we have that physical grunt. You’re able to work through things by sheer physical energy. You can push your body to amazing limits and you appear to have a good gut instinct.
Whether your natural skill is logic, emotional intelligence or sheer physical stamina and it’s working for you – great! It’s when it stops working you tend to be left in the dark without that flashlight. Here’s where coaching can come into play and assist you in unravelling what’s working and what’s not. A coach is like your own personal flashlight, helping you clarify, redefine and align what you desire and want as you embark on, your own self-discovery. Knowing what parts of your life are working well, you’re happy with and uncovering other parts that you’d like the change to occur.
There are many reasons you may seek out a coach, for example:
Now let’s take self-sabotage as an example and see how a coach can work with you.
Some may call it procrastination but it’s a more than that. It’s when there is a battle within. A conflict between what we consciously want and an unconscious need to feel safe. We all accumulate self-sabotage patterns from the moment we enter the world and how we experience life. If we’re unable to manage our emotions and thoughts, then the unconscious mind steps in to take control and takes over our actions, our behaviour, our need to feel safe.
Fear is one of the main factors with self-sabotage. What we can’t handle, whether it be our thoughts, feelings or sensations in the body, our conscious mind goes into overdrive and shuts down, leaving the unconscious mind to take over. Some of these patterns are so ingrained that we may don’t even recognise we have them. It’s like that extra padding of protection that comes out in how we behave. There are many different ways fear can trigger a pattern e.g.
The exact methods a coach will use will depend on their style. Many will use NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and hypnotherapy as part of the process however it’s the strategy (actions steps) of learning new skills to achieve the goal that creates the momentum.
Learning a new skill doesn’t have to be difficult, it’s about being open to experiencing and doing things differently. So, when you hit that windy road, and everything seems uphill, try a coach to fast-track the learning curve and discover more of who you are and what you want.
The Carousel would like to thank Simonne Lee for her story. For more information, her website is here.