Does Weight Gain Make You A Loser?

Does Weight Gain Make You A Loser?
Irena Geller

Weight Loss Expert

Apr 17, 2021

Are you smart, capable and a high achiever in just about everything you do, but you feel like you keep failing in the “weight loss” arena?

Does this sound familiar?

Your body is feeling sluggish and you may feel like you are wearing a thick, heavy winter coat that is weighing you down all the time.

You’ve stopped exercising because you’ve haven’t got the time and it’s just all too hard anyway.

As a result, your body feels “squishy” and you’ve reluctantly had to buy new clothes because you can’t fit into any of your clothes.

You say to yourself: “I am the biggest I have ever been-I’m such a loser”

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How Did This Happen?

Undoing the progress – I can play this situation out so perfectly – I have lost and gained weight more times than I can count.

When I think about countless times this has happened to me and what went wrong, it all comes down to my thinking that I’m too busy and letting go of all the healthy habits.

  • I got busy and stressed with things in life – with less available time.
  • Eating healthy took too much planning and effort. So, I stopped taking that time to prepare healthy food. 

I felt like once my shape started to change it was easy to say “what the hell” and dive head first into all the things I didn’t seem to want a few months ago.

It’s so easy to feel deflated and shameful when then weight comes back on.

Intellectually, it’s easy to understand that your-self-worth doesn’t lie in your appearance but, emotionally that’s the way it feels sometimes. 

But despite all this, your weight gain doesn’t make you a looser.

Get this out of your head and down in writing to help you move past your mental or emotional blocks.

Remember this my friend…

You can work your way back to feeling like yourself. YES, it may take some time but YOU are SO WORTH. IT.

Because you're worth it

And you don’t need to give up- Never give up on yourself!

So rather than berating yourself what if I told that you could invest this energy into considering another perspective… explore this further shall we?

Why Is It So Damn Hard to Lose Weight and Keep It Off? 

It’s a question scientist have been asking since obesity rates began creeping upward in the 1960’s. The stark statistics say that more than 95 percent of people who lose weight – no matter how they lose it – put most or all of the weight back on.The “WHY” may be hard to answer but the “HOW” is no mystery. 

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People Simply Return to Their Old Bad Habits. 

  • They get busy, begin skipping workouts and stop preparing healthy meals. 
  • And many of them tend to think that once the diet is over its time to go back to old habits.
  • Yes, you can lose weight by going cold turkey on “naughty” foods but eventually you feel deprived and cave to temptation.

Quick Fix

Most dieters opt for the quick fix approach and ultimately find themselves trapped in a perpetual cycle of lose-gain-lose-gain. This wreaks havoc on self-esteem, metabolism and overall health


When trying to achieve weight loss goals by staying persistent with a healthy diet and personalized exercise plans, willpower alone is not always enough to keep a weight loss person on track.



To be able to lose weight and keep it off for good, accountability is key.
Many people lack the support, planning, and accountability that it takes to move forward and to maintain weight loss.

People are generally accountable only to themselves-and that often isn’t enough. With such isolation and anatomy, it’s easy for motivation, diligence, and follow –through to slip. Building an accountability helps to ensure that people remain on track. 

Healthy Weight Throughout Different Life Stages

Maintaining a healthy weight throughout the different life stages involves a number of challenges for many women. 


Weight gain is influenced by: 

  • Food – overeating and emotional eating (too many calories) 
  • Life – what is happening in your life (both past and present influences) 
  • Physical activity – not enough physical activity 
  • Emotions – anxiety, stress, overwhelm, loneliness, grief 
  • Environment – having healthy food around you 
  • Thinking – how you think; for example, negative thinking such as ‘I will never be able to have the will power to stop eating sugar’
  • Time – life is busy and often women prioritise everyone else above their own needs 

Weight Gain does not make you a loser – BUT thinking so can get in the way of your weight loss progress and maintenance.

In fact It Makes You A Winner Because you get the opportunity to see what works and what doesn’t in the long run so that you can do it better next time.

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Where To From Here?

Is considering another perspective – Using Weight Maintenance-Specific Coaching and Strategies.

WHY – you may be thinking ???

Simply because the most important component of weight loss maintenance is getting your mindset to come along for the ride.

Let’s face it – you can have the best food in the house and an exercise plan but you will only act if you have the right attitude.

mindset matters

The reality is, what you believe causes you to have certain thoughts, and therefore, to act a certain way. 

In a nutshell- getting your mindset right will help you build your “I Can Do It” attitude, putting you in the right head space for your journey ahead and ultimately successful weight loss for the long term!

Weight Maintenance-Specific Coaching

It’s very important to note that, several studies show improved weight loss outcomes in people receiving weight maintenance-specific coaching, compared with those who only receive traditional weight loss training and follow generic diets .

Weight-Loss Specific Behaviours Associated with Long Term Success Include: 

  • Frequent self-monitoring 
  • Some sort of frequent accountability sessions with wellness Health & Wellness professional of choice
  • A healthy balance diet specific to your metabolic type
  • Physical activity specific for your life style and needs

Seeing a health and wellness professional can help you recognize and restructure your core beliefs and thought processes that underlie these patterns helps minimize behavioural fatigue and prevent or productively manage slips and lapses.


Weight Maintenance-Specific Behavioural Skills and Strategies Help People To:

  • Build insight for long-term management,
  • Anticipate struggles and prepare contingency plans, 
  • Moderate behavioural fatigue, 
  • And put into perspective the inevitable lapses and relapses of any long-term engagement.

And lastly longer term sustained motivation is more likely when you take ownership of your behavioural changes and goals, and engage in them because they are deeply meaningful to you. 


Now it’s over to you…

• What are your challenges with managing your weight? 

 P.S If you want to learn HOW to manage YOUR thinking to manage a healthy weight – you can see it in my upcoming 60 minutes class – 21st or 22nd April.

👉🏻 Simply click here to save your seat NOW! 👈🏻

Irena Geller 

🍓Food & Mood 😃 Coach.


By Irena Geller

Weight Loss Expert

Irena Geller is a 🍓Food & Mood 😃 Coach and author in the Health & Weight loss industry who helps busy women to put down their fork and pick up their life. She uses 3 proven key steps, helping busy women to eat well consistently, lose weight effortlessly, potentially adding years to their life so they can live those years to the fullest, looking amazing and feeling confident!


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