How to Date Yourself (And Why You Should)

With an endless array of swipes and online dating apps out there, it seems like dating culture has taken a strange turn. Whilst there are many modern love stories and a swipe could be the tool to meeting your special person it could also be taking up precious time that you could be spending on one of most enduring relationships of your life. The relationship with yourself. Like any other relationship in our life whether platonic or romantic, our self relationship needs care, attention and love. We often spend so much of our energy on other relationships, yet neglect our own. Imagine..you’ve planned a perfect evening. But instead of waiting for someone else to sweep you off your feet, you’re taking charge. This time, the date is with you. Welcome to the world of dating yourself, where self-love takes centre stage and you become your own favourite company. Here’s your guide to making it happen.

Make yourself feel pretty…For you and no one else.

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Go on solo adventures in nature

Maybe sometimes we feel like hamsters in a wheel. Each day or weekend is somewhat a similar routine of the same places and faces. Whilst these familiar places and faces can sometimes be good for us. It’s important to break out of our comfort zones. Sometimes all you need is some peaceful time in nature. Whether its a swim at a beach you’ve never been to before, a bush walk or strolling through a park. Being out in nature can sooth the nervous system and make for some quality time to reflect on your hopes, dreams and the life you want to live.

Celebrate Your Wins

It may feel at times we need the validation from others when we have successes in out lives, but if we build up the inner voice that validates ourselves instead we can become unstoppable. Whether it’s a small achievement or a big milestone, acknowledge and celebrate your successes. Reward yourself for showing up for yourself consistently.

Set Boundaries

There are definitely some energy vampires and drainers out there. Sometime we might not even be aware of how many people or things are draining our energy. It’s important to protect your personal time. Saying “no” to things that drain your energy is a form of self-respect and strengthens your love for your self. It’s about tuning into your thoughts, feelings, and body with no one else to distract you.

Self Pleasure For Pleasures Sake

Yes sex with another can be fantastic, we can take more autonomy in our lives and start caring about our own pleasure because we deserve it. Self-pleasure is overlooked or stigmatized, but it’s a vital part of self-love and self empowerment. It’s about more than just physical gratification; it’s about embracing your body, understanding what brings you pleasure, and celebrating your sexuality on your terms. Whether it’s through self-exploration or using toys, taking time for yourself in this intimate way helps you connect with your desires, release stress, and experience joy. If you need some help trying to find the right product for you. Womanizer’s has just launched its first ever silent vibrator. What truly sets this vibe apart is its whisper-quiet motor which allows you to fully immerse yourself in the moment without the typical mechanical noise that can be distracting and disruptive. As Womanizer says discreet pleasure is now possible with no distractions—just pure, uninterrupted bliss. A must have for your self love journey.

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Explore your Interests

Remember those hobbies you used to love before life got in the way? Now’s the time to rekindle that spark. Whether it’s painting, photography, cooking, or dancing in your living room, lean into what makes your heart sing. Dating yourself is all about reconnecting with what you love and finding joy in your own passions.

Treat yourself

Ever wanted to experience fine dining alone, or buy that jewellery you’ve been looking at for ever? Do it! Pick a restaurant you’ve been dying to try and book a table for one, dressed up in the new item you deserve. Dressing up and savoring a meal by yourself can be surprisingly empowering. Or, if a night in sounds more appealing, create your perfect dinner and enjoy it with a glass of wine or a cup of tea

Journal or reflect

In a hyper digital and connected world, consider the art if disconnecting. Getting out of a screen and into a good book or journal gives yourself more space to self reflect. Jotting down thoughts, goals, dreams, helps your understand yourself more and helps you see your own personal growth. Plus, it’s a reminder that you are a work in progress, and that’s okay.

So….

Dating yourself isn’t about being lonely. Many people out there are feeling lonely, but feeling lonely is not the same as being alone. Dating yourself is not about filling a void and its not about simply staying distracted. It’s about finding quality moments of joy and peace alone, filling your own cup so you can overflow with confidence, joy, and self-love. It’s about learning that you are enough, all on your own. So the next time someone asks, “Who are you dating?” don’t be afraid to smile and say, Me.