Creating romance is as easy as revamping your room. Follow our 20 feng shui dos and don’ts to breathe new life into your boudoir!
1 DO revamp your bed.
Air out your mattress, turn it over and kit it out with inviting linen, luxurious cushions and a throw rug, preferably in sultry earth tones. Also centre your bed if possible, so that it’s in a position that encourages romance, making sure that it’s accessible from either side and ideally not pushed up against the wall.
2 DON’T look elsewhere.
Mirrors on the ceiling or in front of the bed may be all the rage in Hotel California but in feng shui it’s not only tacky but majorly bad juju! Save the kink for the kitchen and move your looking glass to a more discreet location.
3 DO get rid of the “single” mindset.
Ditch any images of lonely people and replace them with sensual, romantic artwork and pictures of happy couples. You can also create couple-dom by placing items and ornaments in pairs, from a picture of a loved-up twosome to matching candles. Place them in the south-west corner of your room or against the wall opposite the foot of your bed. A round mirror, which is the shape of unity, also gives the room a sense of fulfilment and completion.
4 DON’T fill your room with electrical appliances.
The television should be the first to go – being a late-night viewing junkie is a surefire way to kill the romance in your existing relationship and ensure that you don’t get any in the future! So curl up with a good book, buy a clock radio that runs on batteries and ditch the electric blanket – in winter, use a good old-fashioned hot water bottle or have an extra doona.
5 DO create romance with rose quartz and amethyst, just two of the crystals associated with love.
Strategically place these pretty ornaments throughout your bedroom – on a windowsill, dresser or side table to create romantic and harmonious vibes.
6 DON’T mess with metal.
As a conductor of electricity, metal tends to interfere with the “chi” or energy flow of the room. So if you have a bed with a metal frame, swap it for a more organic wooden structure.
7 DO tinker with other parts of the house to bring love into your life.
Construct a “Relationship Gua”, a shrine of sorts, in the corner traditionally designated to love and romance. This is the far-right corner of your home, using your front door as a reference point. Again you can use some simple feng tools, such as rose quartz crystals and pictures of loving couples, as well as written affirmations and jasmine surrounding a cosy two-seater couch.
8 DON’T invite external forces.
If your bedhead is directly under a window, it’s a primo position for letting negative energy into the room. Move the bed, quick smart!
9 DO be careful what you wish for!
Be specific in your mind about the sort of relationship you want. You could formalise your intentions by collecting images, key words and anything that, to you, symbolises romance and pasting them on to a collage. Place it in a spot that you will see every day. If you’re in a relationship, you can ask your partner to contribute their ideas.
10 DON’T leave yourself open.
Try not to place your bed directly in line with a doorway. If it’s unavoidable, hang a rose quartz crystal, or a clear one, somewhere in between.
11 DO think pink!
You may not be thrilled about this girlie colour but, like it or not, it’s a feminine hue that smacks of romance. You don’t have to deck out your digs to resemble a cupcake – a hint of pink here and there will do the trick. You can also turn up the heat with a splash of red and crimson – the colours of passion and lust.
12 DONT play with knives!
Get rid of any sharp metal objects within the bedroom such as knives, swords or scissors. It may be a little kinky and oh-so Angelina (pre-Brad) but, ultimately, these items are symbols of aggression and animosity.
13 DO move your bed
Move it to a “romance friendly” position, aligned north-south if possible, not east-west.
14 DON’T treat your room as a gym.
Exercising, as well as storing weights and other sports equipment in your room, particularly under your bed, creates an atmosphere of hard work and toil, which will eclipse the romantic vibes you’re trying to foster. The only workout going on in your bedroom is best left to your imagination!
15 DO go with the flow.
Take a deliberate walk from your front door to your bedroom, checking to make sure that the flow of energy – “chi” in feng shui – is even and unimpeded. Once you’ve cleared a path to your bedroom, suss out the other areas of the house, particularly the space leading to your “Relationship Gua” and, if necessary, rearrange the furniture.
16 DON’T live in the past.
Purge your home of any residual energy from past relationships. Go through the entire place, not just your bedroom, and remove remnants of exes – and that includes everything from the oversized T-shirt you still wear to bed to photos, trinkets, letters and any gifts that may evoke feelings of melancholy or disappointment.
17 DO look after the doorway to your heart.
Make sure both the front door of your home and the door to your bedroom open easily and completely. Doors that become stuck, squeak or can’t be opened fully will also obstruct your romantic energy. Doors with faulty or loose doorknobs also symbolise losing your grip and can cause a hard time with romance.
18 DON’T make it a family affair.
Photos of parents, the kids and other family members, while sweet and sentimental, are a major romance killer. Who wants Mum keeping an eye on your bedroom action!
19 DO follow your nose!
Create the perfect mood with sensual incense or a candle burner. The aroma of jasmine, lavender and vanilla are olfactory aphrodisiacs.
20 DON’T get wet! Apart from making you want to get up and head for the loo in the middle of the night, any running water, whether a fish tank, fountain or even a picture that shows water, makes for a shaky relationship. Move the water features into the lounge room
Have you feng shui’d your bedroom? Tell us your experience in the comments below!