Have your ears pricked yet? Sexologists hear it all – the most intimate details of other couples’ sex lives. From those forbidden fantasies and sex toy favourites, to naughty leather and chains tales and turn-ons we’ve probably never dreamed of. Oh, and of course, they hear their fair share of sexual issues, bedroom boredom, lack of libido and a multitude of other issues.
Other People’s Sex Lives: 4 Things Those Couples Are Doing
So, with that in mind, we invited HERO Condoms Sexologist Juliet Allen to share some of the juicy details she’s exposed to behind client doors – to help us all, naturally. “It’s not uncommon for couples to compare themselves to others when it comes to sex and relationships,” explains Juliet. “It’s natural to feel curious about what others get up to in the bedroom; Are they having more frequent sex than us? Do they use sex toys? Did they end up having that threesome that they wanted?’” With this curiosity in mind, Juliet reveals five things other couples are doing in the boudoir…
#1 Enjoying quickies – frequently
Ah ha, so this is how couples are managing the school drop off/work/cooking/socialising/yoga and sex all into their busy schedules. “In my opinion, ’quickies’ get a bad wrap,” says Juliet. “There’s so much focus on long, sensual sex, that there seems to be an expectation that everyone is doing it. The fact is, most couples frequently enjoy quick sex. ‘Quickies’ are just that; quick and pleasurable. Sex doesn’t always have to be long and drawn out, and most couples enjoy quickies far more frequently that you think.” Got 10 minutes to spare? Quick, get to it!
#2 Fantasising about group sex
All for one, or one for all? “Group sex is a popular fantasy, with threesomes being a much talked about topic in the households of many,” Juliet reveals. “But do most couples actually go ahead and have threesomes? The answer is no. It’s a common fantasy, and a huge turn on… but many couples choose to leave it at just that, a fantasy.”
#3 Masturbating, alone
Han Solo, you were so on the mark. “Masturbating alone is a common practice for many couples (whether they admit it or not),” reveals Juliet. “The fact is that no matter how much sex people are having together, masturbating is an important practice of self-love and self-pleasure.” So go on, give yourself a hand…
#4 Having little or no sex at all
Eeek! Sometimes you just don’t want to know what the future holds…. “Yes, it’s true; many couples end up having very little sex,” says Juliet. “The truth is, couples get bored, life gets busy, and the honeymoon period ends. A very common challenge that couples face is having little sex (if at all). No one likes to admit it, but it’s true. If this is you, believe me, you’re not alone.” See tip #3.