International Men’s Day 2023: The Fathering Project CEO Kati Gapaillard Shares Her Vision

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Nov 19, 2023

In light of International Men’s Day 2023, can you tell share with us your reflection on the State of Manhood from a Woman’s Perspective as CEO of The Fathering Project?

As a woman observing the evolving landscape of gender roles, I’m increasingly aware of the complex challenges faced by men in today’s society. There is no doubt that men hold a disproportionate representation in media, politics, leadership roles, and other influential positions within our society and we need more gender balance, however, they also account for a staggering 75% of all suicides in Australia, with the rate of male suicide rising by 13% over the past decade. This crisis is particularly acute among men under 55, who constitute the majority of these tragic losses.

What is your research telling you about the underlying Issues of Men’s Struggles in the gender story?

While we often focus on the triumphs and struggles of women – rightly so – it’s becoming clear through our work with schools, dads’ groups, and research from multiple organisations in this space, that men and boys are grappling with their own set of issues.  Despite the advantages that the patriarchal system grants to men collectively, it can also significantly damage individual men and boys in many ways.

International Men's Day 2023

As a mother, and also working with families, mums and dads, what concerns do you share for the next generation of men and how can we address them?

As a mother, the plight of boys in this changing world is a concern. Boys are generally fed a continuous diet of expectations from the time they can walk and talk: be tough, be brave, don’t cry, conquer and win. These messages are not always from a single source; they ricochet through the media, movies, playgrounds, and, in some cases, even within our own homes.

I see and hear stories through our drop-in centres about boys who are pressured to fit into a mould of traditional masculinity that leaves little room for vulnerability or emotional expression. In schools, we see boys falling behind, not for lack of intelligence, but perhaps because the current educational systems are better geared towards girls’ learning styles. Boys are more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD, less likely to graduate from high school, and less likely to pursue higher education.

I think the issue starts with emotional literacy. We don’t teach emotional resilience to our boys the same way we do to our girls. The expression “boys will be boys” is used to downplay behaviour that, if addressed appropriately, could teach our young men empathy, nurture, consent, and communication.

Physical aggression in boys is frequently justified as a normal element of being masculine, but I question this; is it innate or acquired? And what are the consequences of this belief? We read headlines about men committing acts of violence at an alarming rate, and I can’t help but wonder how different things might be if we taught our boys to express their emotions in a healthy way.

The modern world poses a paradox for our boys: society still rewards the stoic, traditional male figure, yet we’re also beginning to understand the importance of emotional intelligence. As a mother, it’s a tightrope walk between encouraging resilience and fostering sensitivity.

International Men's Day 2023

So what can we do to support the journey from boys to men?

Firstly, we need to redefine strength. It’s not just about muscle and might; it’s about emotional courage. Let’s teach our boys that it’s okay to cry, to be afraid, to seek help. Strength is in the capacity to face one’s feelings, not flee from them.

We must revamp our educational system to support different learning styles and ensure that our boys don’t fall through the cracks. Encouraging reading, art, and emotional education as much as we do sports and competition can create a more well-rounded experience.

Fathers, male teachers, and mentors need to model this new form of healthy manhood—men who are not afraid to show love, to be nurturing, to communicate openly. Boys need to see that their heroes aren’t just fighters and sports stars, but also caregivers and peacemakers.

Finally, as a society, we must engage in open conversations about the pressures and expectations placed on boys. We need to listen to them, really listen, without judgment, and with the intent to understand their unique experiences and challenges. My hope for my son and all boys for International Men’s Day 2023 is that they grow up in a world that understands their struggles, sees their potential, and supports their journey to become men of character—men who can be as strong in their compassion and empathy as they are in their convictions. It is not an easy task, but for the sake of our boys, and the men they will become, it is a necessary one.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

By Robyn Foyster Robyn Foyster has been verified by Muck Rack's editorial team

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A multi award-winning journalist and editor and experienced executive, Robyn Foyster has successfully led multiple companies including her own media and tech businesses. She is the editor and owner of Women Love Tech, The Carousel and Game Changers. A passionate advocate for diversity, with a strong track record of supporting and mentoring young women, Robyn is a 2023 Women Leading Tech Champion of Change finalist, 2024 finalist for the Samsung Lizzies IT Awards and 2024 Small Business Awards finalist. A regular speaker on TV, radio and podcasts, Robyn spoke on two panels for SXSW Sydney in 2023 and Intel's 2024 Sales Conference in Vietnam and AI Summit in Australia. She has been a judge for the Telstra Business Awards for 8 years. Voted one of B&T's 30 Most Powerful Women In Media, Robyn was Publisher and Editor of Australia's three biggest flagship magazines - The Weekly, Woman's Day and New Idea and a Seven Network Executive. Her career has taken her from Sydney where she began as a copy girl at Sydney's News Ltd whilst completing a BA in Arts and Government at Sydney University, to London, LA and Auckland. After 16 years abroad, Robyn returned to Sydney as a media executive and was Editor-in-Chief of the country's biggest selling magazine, The Australian Women's Weekly.

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